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[personal profile] badgerbag
It's been a couple or three years since I got the nerve up to go to the dentist. Last time the office was ratty and difficult to navigate and though I tried to go to the most lesbianly possible dentists office I got a dude with giant hands cleaning my teeth and who kind of slurp-wheezed when he talked and also who was trying to be "jolly" all of which was like a recipe to freak me out. So I didn't go back.

This time I scoured the women dentists of yelp, who can also do root canals in case I need one, who I can get to easily on the bus and/or who have "high tech" machinery like a digital xray capability (because that just seems so sensible and you end up with a useful file.)

The office has a tiny lift behind the receptionist's chair. Lift full of boxes and fans and junk and, yeah. And she had to move out of the way to let me in it, and it has no button inside it so there was a lot of embarrassing fuss. Not good... I nearly left at that point. Then the xray machine was in a sort of alcove RIGHT THERE opening into the top of the steps (still visible from the lobby and basically.... part of the lobby) So no privacy for the moment when I burst into tears at the xray thing in my mouth (Because I can never help it. However, I did not actually barf, so, success?)

Then there was another xray machine where you have to stand up and it rotates around your head.

The actual dentist was nice. I have two cavities forming under cracked fillings. 20 year old fillings, at least that old. Not so bad! They will give me valium and laughing gas for the fillings thank god. I hope not in the middle of the lobby.

I felt so emotionally rattled I came home, cried secretly, had a shot of rum, and then made cookies with A. (after making us dinner).

Date: 2016-01-27 04:47 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] serene
I'm so sorry.

You didn't ask for advice, but please let me know if you want a possible rec for a (queer? maybe) woman dentist 3 blocks from the 12th St. BART.

Date: 2016-01-27 06:17 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] metaphortunate
I want that rec!

I haven't been to the dentist in, uh, 20 years. So I feel you about the lack of nerve thing. I kind of promised Mr. E I would go this year, so I have almost a year to work up to it...

Date: 2016-01-27 05:06 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] redbird
No advice, but I hope this goes as smoothly as my recent lost filling, which took about five minutes to replace, with a modern resin that they cure with UV light.

Date: 2016-01-27 09:06 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] synecdochic
Ugh, dentists are the worst. I put off going for like a decade, at which point I needed a LOT of work. On the bright side, I did find a dentist I love, and who is great with my weird Ehlers-Danlos related side effects like Novocaine wearing off super fast on me -- we've done science, it hits me in 4.5 minutes and wears off by 15 -- so I am wishing you luck in finding a dentist who is as awesome as mine.

Basically, YES DENTIST SUCKS, it sucks more when the office doesn't put any thought at all into designing for people who have dental phobia much less people with access needs, you are not a coward, and I hope it goes smoothly!

Date: 2016-02-09 10:24 am (UTC)
synecdochic: torso of a man wearing jeans, hands bound with belt (Default)
From: [personal profile] synecdochic

I KNOW, RIGHT? Like, if you're going to be a dentist, you should at least grok that dental phobia is like the second most common American phobia! DESIGN FOR THAT SHIT. TRAIN YOUR STAFF. DON'T BE AN ASSHOLE.

My Awesome Dentist is on the 22nd floor of a downtown building with floor to ceiling windows; they faced all the chairs towards the windows, so you can look out over the city. Not great for people with agoraphobia, but good if just having some sense of space helps! And they're totally down with "I'm just going to put on these headphones and block out everything". And if you tell them you've got dental phobia, they'll ask you right on the phone what you need to help you feel comfortable, and then ... they write it down in your chart and they do it. Like, I love the view out the windows, but it means the chair puts your back to the door, which I find SUPER uncomfortable -- so they wrote down in my chart that I hate having an open door at my back, and everyone in the office REMEMBERS TO CLOSE THE DOOR WHEN THEY ENTER OR EXIT. I've only had to remind them like once or twice. It's amazing. They'll also call in a prescription for like two pills of Valium a few days before your next appointment if you need them!

(I once apologized for being so twitchy -- this was early on in our relationship before I really internalized that Dr G was on my side with things -- and he said, cheerfully, "Oh, this is nothing, we have one patient who needs to have her husband blindfold her in the waiting room and put her headphones on and then lead her to the chair and sit and hold her hand the whole time and that's no problem either, you're totally fine.")

Everyone in that office is also super reasonable about stuff and understands Too Many Things To Keep Track Of/I Cannot Deal With Another Medical Thing, too. Like, I don't floss regularly, because it makes my gums bleed and I hate it and it hurts and I'm just not gonna do it. So instead we do cleanings every 3 months instead of every 6, and every time the hygenist (who is Dr G's brother, and who is also awesome) says, "I know you should floss, you know you should floss, take the lecture as read, yeah?" and then drops it. And last visit Dr G was like, "It looks like you grind your teeth in your sleep. If I get you an appliance, are you gonna wear it?" "I already sleep in like four different kinds of braces and I Just Cannot Deal, so, no." "No problem, we'll just do X-rays twice a year instead of once, then!"

IN SHORT, I LOVE MY DENTIST AND I WISH I COULD AFFORD TO FLY ALL MY FRIENDS WITH HORRIBLE DENTAL HORROR STORIES OUT HERE TO SEE HIM BECAUSE HE FIXES EVERYTHING AND HE IS A LOVELY HUMAN BEING AND I TRUST HIM COMPLETELY AND IT HAS FIXED MY DENTIST ISSUES ENTIRELY. (And even better, he's my age, so he can continue being my dentist for a LONG TIME.)

Date: 2016-01-27 09:53 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sasha_feather
<3

Date: 2016-01-27 02:03 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] brainwane
Best wishes and sympathies.

Date: 2016-01-27 04:14 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] susanreads
I hope it goes as smoothly as my damaged filling replacement yesterday.

Date: 2016-01-27 05:38 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] altamira16
You constantly open my eyes to how limited accessibility is when it comes to various places. I hope that your fillings go well. From what you are saying, it seems like the cleaning may have gone okay if your next appointment is for the fillings and not for some extended cleaning before the fillings.

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